We are often told that getting married will make us happy. That we get to live happily ever after with the man of our dreams, when oftentimes, it is not the case. Believing in many marriage myths is what causes us to create unrealistic expectations, which later leads to disappointments. A good way to avoid such feeling is to stop believing in unhealthy marriage myths and here are some of those myths that are definitely worth leaving behind.

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  1. Love is all that matters and all you’ll need in marriage. While love is a prerequisite in marriage, it won’t really get you farther than the altar. Other than love, there are other factors that you’ll need to work on to make your marriage work, and these factors include commitment, kindness, realistic expectations, tolerance, shared values and more importantly, communication. So stop believing that love is all that’s necessary in having a good marriage.
  1. You complete each other’s shortcomings. Complementing each other can be very helpful in establishing a good relationship, but thinking and expecting that your partner will make up for your shortcomings and complete you is one of those unrealistic expectations in marriage. Yes, you can ask your partner to help you in your shortcomings, but never think that he or she can complete you.

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  1. You share anything and everything. Although sharing means caring, sharing almost everything is quite unrealistic too. You should never feel obliged to share everything with your partner and the same thing goes for him or her as well. Also, don’t expect that your partner will share everything with you, when you yourself isn’t into the idea of sharing everything with him or her.
  1. Having babies will bring you closer. Other than marriage, babies are what makes a couple forever entwined. However, some studies showed that even the birth of the first child pushes people apart as one parent starts to focus more on the child, leaving her partner alone most of the time.
  1. Everything falls into place when you’re with Mr. or Mrs. Right. Believing in Mr. and Mrs. Right isn’t entirely wrong. What’s wrong is believing that everything will fall perfectly into place when you’re with them, because in reality, there will still be times when things will get rough whether or not you’re with your Mr. or Mrs. Right.

Both time and effort are necessary for marriage to work. So instead of believing in these marriage myths, you should just spend your time nurturing yourself and your relationship with your partner to ensure that your marriage become a lifetime bond.

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