Singaporeans are among the hardest working in the world. Even so, many individuals get built-up stress from work. Among the common workplace issues one may face, interpersonal conflict and communication problems are the ones that normally increase anxiety and stress. Whether at work or at home, here are some ways you can deal with people you don’t like.

Recognizing the fact that everyone is different

You may have already heard the line “nobody is perfect” a million times, but of course, it wouldn’t be said again and again if it wasn’t true. Recognizing that people have different beliefs and values will make it easier for you to understand them. When they start to display unpleasant behavior and disagreeable actions, you will at least know how to approach them calmly and smartly. With this, you will see that the person you don’t like isn’t necessarily bad, he/she just has different beliefs and values.

Treat them equally with others

If by chance you’ve earned an enemy, it would be very helpful in resolving the issue if you remain fair and unbiased towards them. If they feel an atmosphere of hostility from you, they will most likely reciprocate those feelings and the problem will only grow bigger. If they see that you treat them just as well as you would others, they might consider their actions better next time. Of course, this doesn’t mean you have to agree with them completely, you only have to be consistent with civility.

Focus on yourself

It’s easier to change your own attitude and behavior than to expect someone to do so. When you focus on controlling your feelings and stop comparing yourself to others, you can rise above all the conflicts and disagreements. However, this doesn’t mean that you should stop listening to the opinions of others. You’re only giving yourself time to reflect on your frustrations to be able to overcome them without venting on others.

Let things go

Recognize that there are things simply not worth your time and attention. If you think that an argument with a co-worker is only going in circles, just let it go as it’s only wasting your time. If a person keeps bugging you, ask yourself how engaging with this person will affect your work. Supposing you can take advantage and it can benefit you in some ways, by all means, do it. Otherwise, it would be better to just lay off of it.

Don’t take everything personally

You may not notice but sometimes what we hate about others is actually something that we don’t like in ourselves. Plus, what causes us to dislike others only starts from a certain misunderstanding. You might get criticized and told off, but think of these as ways to be better rather than taking them personally. Others’ opinions are typically feedback to your own actions, so use them for self-improvement.